Sunday, June 13, 2010
Friday, June 11, 2010
The most important thing...
One of the most important things I feel this class has taught me is that when we think intercultural we need to view all cultures. In order to do this we need to understand what a culture is actually made up of. Often we see culture as specifically related to ethnicity, but it isn’t.
This class has shown me that true culture can be defined in a lot of different ways, far more than I would have considered prior to this class. Anywhere a group is created and ideas, meaning, emotions, or patterns are developed a culture is created. Culture has a strong influence on our perceptions and thought processes and is used as a basis for many of the things we do and how we communicate our ideas and thoughts. Because there are so many cultures that could be considered and no one can be expected to know each and every one of them, just being able to approach communication with this knowledge could really help in diffusing a lot of the conflicts we have today.
We no longer, and never really did, exist in a vacuum and we can’t continue to use our separatism as a reason for being intolerant of others cultures. Globalization is a term that has been used for the last few years and it continues to be a main topic in today’s economy. Globalization is both internal to the US, in that our populations continue to diversify and expand, and it is external, in that we are becoming dependent or working with other countries as a regular course of business and politics. The understanding of the true meaning of culture and its impact on communication is and will continue to be a very important part of our future, politically, economically, and personally.
I’m a decent communicator and I feel that from an intercultural perspective I communicate well with many obvious cultures. I say obvious because as I stated above, I basically have a better understanding of what culture is now. So in understand the obvious ones, I’m not too shabby, but when dealing with the not so obvious ones, I will need to consider that a bit more when communicating with anyone. My end goal is to be a counselor. I will need to, just from that perspective alone, fine tune and practice my skills at communication in general and this must be one of the areas that I take more interest in.
As I said above, we continue to become a more diverse society. Social work, which is what I am choosing to pursue may put me directly at the forefront of dealing with many of the different culture groups we have discussed in this class. In order for me to be successful, I must be better at recognizing and improving my communication with those less obvious intercultural influences, and continue to improve those that are obvious.
How do you think improving your intercultural communication skills will help you in your chosen future occupations?
This class has shown me that true culture can be defined in a lot of different ways, far more than I would have considered prior to this class. Anywhere a group is created and ideas, meaning, emotions, or patterns are developed a culture is created. Culture has a strong influence on our perceptions and thought processes and is used as a basis for many of the things we do and how we communicate our ideas and thoughts. Because there are so many cultures that could be considered and no one can be expected to know each and every one of them, just being able to approach communication with this knowledge could really help in diffusing a lot of the conflicts we have today.
We no longer, and never really did, exist in a vacuum and we can’t continue to use our separatism as a reason for being intolerant of others cultures. Globalization is a term that has been used for the last few years and it continues to be a main topic in today’s economy. Globalization is both internal to the US, in that our populations continue to diversify and expand, and it is external, in that we are becoming dependent or working with other countries as a regular course of business and politics. The understanding of the true meaning of culture and its impact on communication is and will continue to be a very important part of our future, politically, economically, and personally.
I’m a decent communicator and I feel that from an intercultural perspective I communicate well with many obvious cultures. I say obvious because as I stated above, I basically have a better understanding of what culture is now. So in understand the obvious ones, I’m not too shabby, but when dealing with the not so obvious ones, I will need to consider that a bit more when communicating with anyone. My end goal is to be a counselor. I will need to, just from that perspective alone, fine tune and practice my skills at communication in general and this must be one of the areas that I take more interest in.
As I said above, we continue to become a more diverse society. Social work, which is what I am choosing to pursue may put me directly at the forefront of dealing with many of the different culture groups we have discussed in this class. In order for me to be successful, I must be better at recognizing and improving my communication with those less obvious intercultural influences, and continue to improve those that are obvious.
How do you think improving your intercultural communication skills will help you in your chosen future occupations?
What is conflict?
I’m going to reference the issue currently occurring in the south in regards to illegal immigration. The scenario is that the state of Arizona has passed a law that allows law enforcement to stop people they believe to be Mexican illegal aliens on site and ask them to show papers or proof of American citizenship. The problem or major conflict is that this is considered racial profiling.
From amnesty international, racial profiling is defined as: “Racial profiling occurs when race is used by law enforcement or private security officials, to any degree, as a basis for criminal suspicion in non-suspect specific investigations. Discrimination based on race, ethnicity, religion, nationality or on any other particular identity undermines the basic human rights and freedoms to which every person is entitled.”
If you have ever been down in Texas, Arizona, or New Mexico, you will understand the amount of Mexican-American’s in that area. These are American citizens and they will be subject to this law, which will discriminate based on the color of their skin. Any process that specifically uses the color or ones skin can’t be seen as anything other than racism. An additional problem is that other states are actually considering enacting similar laws. I understand the need to address issues, real issues, surrounding illegal immigration but promoting racism is not the way to do it.
The cultural conflict styles most prevalent in this issue are value and goal conflict. The value conflict arises because of the difference in Americans views on illegal immigration and how to deal with it. Some Americans understand the effects, both now and for our future, of allowing a law like this to be supported and or instituted state wide. Others are viewing this as the only way to deal with illegal immigration and they buy into the propaganda about illegal immigrants and their negative effects on the US economy, they are so emotional over this that they cannot or don’t wish to see the positive effects. Decisions and judgments based on ignorance are very dangerous.
The other type of conflict is goal conflict. People are disagreeing over this law that has been passed in Arizona. They disagree that this is the way to deal with illegal immigration; some obviously don’t consider it racist in the least and are more focused on their desired end result than the logic of what they are doing.
I believe it’s difficult for societies to resolve differences when they are in an emotional state of fear. The US economy is weak, jobs are at a loss, crime is rising, budgets are being cut to me this makes Americans fearful. When in fear they react emotionally and without thought of the true consequences of their actions. Throughout time there has always had to be a scapegoat, I think the government encourages it to take the focus away from their inability or lack of desire to deal with the most pressing issues of today. People also are unwilling to accept accountability for the state of affairs and therefore need to find someone else to pin it on. In this case it’s Mexicans. If they persist in using racially based laws to deal with this, or any issue no this will not be resolved. They must find a more humane solution to the issue and not target a group by their skin color.
From amnesty international, racial profiling is defined as: “Racial profiling occurs when race is used by law enforcement or private security officials, to any degree, as a basis for criminal suspicion in non-suspect specific investigations. Discrimination based on race, ethnicity, religion, nationality or on any other particular identity undermines the basic human rights and freedoms to which every person is entitled.”
If you have ever been down in Texas, Arizona, or New Mexico, you will understand the amount of Mexican-American’s in that area. These are American citizens and they will be subject to this law, which will discriminate based on the color of their skin. Any process that specifically uses the color or ones skin can’t be seen as anything other than racism. An additional problem is that other states are actually considering enacting similar laws. I understand the need to address issues, real issues, surrounding illegal immigration but promoting racism is not the way to do it.
The cultural conflict styles most prevalent in this issue are value and goal conflict. The value conflict arises because of the difference in Americans views on illegal immigration and how to deal with it. Some Americans understand the effects, both now and for our future, of allowing a law like this to be supported and or instituted state wide. Others are viewing this as the only way to deal with illegal immigration and they buy into the propaganda about illegal immigrants and their negative effects on the US economy, they are so emotional over this that they cannot or don’t wish to see the positive effects. Decisions and judgments based on ignorance are very dangerous.
The other type of conflict is goal conflict. People are disagreeing over this law that has been passed in Arizona. They disagree that this is the way to deal with illegal immigration; some obviously don’t consider it racist in the least and are more focused on their desired end result than the logic of what they are doing.
I believe it’s difficult for societies to resolve differences when they are in an emotional state of fear. The US economy is weak, jobs are at a loss, crime is rising, budgets are being cut to me this makes Americans fearful. When in fear they react emotionally and without thought of the true consequences of their actions. Throughout time there has always had to be a scapegoat, I think the government encourages it to take the focus away from their inability or lack of desire to deal with the most pressing issues of today. People also are unwilling to accept accountability for the state of affairs and therefore need to find someone else to pin it on. In this case it’s Mexicans. If they persist in using racially based laws to deal with this, or any issue no this will not be resolved. They must find a more humane solution to the issue and not target a group by their skin color.
Culture - Activity 10
1. Who do the members of your culture consider to be part
of their family?
I think this depends on which members you talk to. Typically family is defined as: grandmother, grandfather, mother, father, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins (1st and 2nd), spouse, and children. Some of the members have experienced different things and would be more apt to consider very close friends a part of their family, although I’m not one of these.
2. What are some roles and responsibilities of specific family
members?
Grandparents can be care takers/babysitters, tell stories of how things used to be, and are looked at with a lot of respect and reverence for the experiences they have gone through. They can be disciplinarian or not when it comes to dealing with their grandchildren or kids.
Parents are the head of the household. They should be the teachers and examples for the kids to follow.
Siblings are sometimes an extension of the parents (in the role of aunt and uncles) in regards to influence on children. They are the ones responsible for caring for the grandparents. Typically it is the female children that the role of caretaker of the old is given too, men rarely or never are responsible for their parents.
The birth order often determines the role that kids make with the eldest being the most responsible and the youngest being the most spoiled and irresponsible – though this doesn’t always prove to be the case.
Cousins are like good friends to other cousins. It’s like a giant click in high school that no matter how often or when you meet each other you share a common bond.
Your spouse is your number one supporter and co-provider in some cases and in others they are a subservient other half.
3. Are family members encouraged to stay in the same
house/area as their family after adolescence?
On my father’s side I think the family cohesion is implied subtly but never directly. Of my father’s family of 8 only one lived in another state. All others lived near each other or within the metropolitan area.
4. What are the cultural norms and taboos regarding dating
and meeting people with whom to become romantically
involved?
This depends on which culture I’m associating with. I am interracial so from the white side of the house there were no major taboos really, but from my Mexican side there were subtle hints of not marrying a non-catholic or black – white wasn’t a big deal as we were half, but I don’t know that it was the best scenario that had been wanted for us.
5. How are marriage proposals conducted in your culture?
The man asks the woman to marry them, period. Meeting the parents was an expected thing, but nothing that needed to be stated.
6. What is a typical wedding like?
It varies. Some are big church weddings, Catholic weddings. Some are elopements and then some are done at the court house etc.
7. How do members of the culture view divorce?
Though not an optimal situation it does occur. It’s neither encouraged nor discouraged outwardly though. I think it is more sad and regretful than anything else, but outside of religiously being discouraged there really is no hard and fast rule. I feel that it is such a common occurrence today that it doesn’t carry the stigma it once did.
8. If divorce occurs, what are the rights of each partner?
The rights of each partner are legally fairly equal. The inequality that does occur is more in the treatment both socially and economically of the partners in the relationship. Historically, and still, the women seem to suffer much harder economic effects of the divorce. Socially there is a division of support or understanding of the partners depending on who initiated the divorce and the reasons behind it. Neither of these is related to rights per se.
9. What is the general opinion of the culture toward
homosexuality?
Homosexuality is viewed as a sin and as something that is unnatural. Homosexuality is looked down upon and/or something to be made fun of. Though overall it is looked down on, the level of opposition that is shown is dependent on the sex of the individual. Homosexual women are viewed as something that is more acceptable, maybe even erotic, than homosexual men.
10. How are the general perspectives of this culture the
same/different from yours regarding gender roles?
Women traditionally do the entire cooking, are the primary caretakers of children, and are generally more subservient to men. Men are the breadwinners and their ego is supposed to be soothed and comforted by their women. I also view women as the primary caretakers and as the cooks in a household, but I do not agree that they are to be subservient to men. I don’t even like the word subservient. I view women and men roles as equals. There are things that women are better at doing than men, whether it’s because of skill or just preference and the division of labor in a household or outside of it should be based on that.
of their family?
I think this depends on which members you talk to. Typically family is defined as: grandmother, grandfather, mother, father, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins (1st and 2nd), spouse, and children. Some of the members have experienced different things and would be more apt to consider very close friends a part of their family, although I’m not one of these.
2. What are some roles and responsibilities of specific family
members?
Grandparents can be care takers/babysitters, tell stories of how things used to be, and are looked at with a lot of respect and reverence for the experiences they have gone through. They can be disciplinarian or not when it comes to dealing with their grandchildren or kids.
Parents are the head of the household. They should be the teachers and examples for the kids to follow.
Siblings are sometimes an extension of the parents (in the role of aunt and uncles) in regards to influence on children. They are the ones responsible for caring for the grandparents. Typically it is the female children that the role of caretaker of the old is given too, men rarely or never are responsible for their parents.
The birth order often determines the role that kids make with the eldest being the most responsible and the youngest being the most spoiled and irresponsible – though this doesn’t always prove to be the case.
Cousins are like good friends to other cousins. It’s like a giant click in high school that no matter how often or when you meet each other you share a common bond.
Your spouse is your number one supporter and co-provider in some cases and in others they are a subservient other half.
3. Are family members encouraged to stay in the same
house/area as their family after adolescence?
On my father’s side I think the family cohesion is implied subtly but never directly. Of my father’s family of 8 only one lived in another state. All others lived near each other or within the metropolitan area.
4. What are the cultural norms and taboos regarding dating
and meeting people with whom to become romantically
involved?
This depends on which culture I’m associating with. I am interracial so from the white side of the house there were no major taboos really, but from my Mexican side there were subtle hints of not marrying a non-catholic or black – white wasn’t a big deal as we were half, but I don’t know that it was the best scenario that had been wanted for us.
5. How are marriage proposals conducted in your culture?
The man asks the woman to marry them, period. Meeting the parents was an expected thing, but nothing that needed to be stated.
6. What is a typical wedding like?
It varies. Some are big church weddings, Catholic weddings. Some are elopements and then some are done at the court house etc.
7. How do members of the culture view divorce?
Though not an optimal situation it does occur. It’s neither encouraged nor discouraged outwardly though. I think it is more sad and regretful than anything else, but outside of religiously being discouraged there really is no hard and fast rule. I feel that it is such a common occurrence today that it doesn’t carry the stigma it once did.
8. If divorce occurs, what are the rights of each partner?
The rights of each partner are legally fairly equal. The inequality that does occur is more in the treatment both socially and economically of the partners in the relationship. Historically, and still, the women seem to suffer much harder economic effects of the divorce. Socially there is a division of support or understanding of the partners depending on who initiated the divorce and the reasons behind it. Neither of these is related to rights per se.
9. What is the general opinion of the culture toward
homosexuality?
Homosexuality is viewed as a sin and as something that is unnatural. Homosexuality is looked down upon and/or something to be made fun of. Though overall it is looked down on, the level of opposition that is shown is dependent on the sex of the individual. Homosexual women are viewed as something that is more acceptable, maybe even erotic, than homosexual men.
10. How are the general perspectives of this culture the
same/different from yours regarding gender roles?
Women traditionally do the entire cooking, are the primary caretakers of children, and are generally more subservient to men. Men are the breadwinners and their ego is supposed to be soothed and comforted by their women. I also view women as the primary caretakers and as the cooks in a household, but I do not agree that they are to be subservient to men. I don’t even like the word subservient. I view women and men roles as equals. There are things that women are better at doing than men, whether it’s because of skill or just preference and the division of labor in a household or outside of it should be based on that.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Glee: Representing How Americans Act Since 2009.
How do Americans act? The show is a bit on the crazy, over dramatic and mean side at times. They are outgoing, very expressive, and at times can be very material and shallow. Some are intelligent why some are as dumb as a stump. They may pounce on the weaker members of their society and yet for those within it can be very forgiving and supportive. They look like they walked out of magazines like, “Teen”, “GQ”, “Cosmo”, and “Sports Illustrated”. They look older than what would be expected of people their age (they are supposed to be like 16, yah right) but are all, generally, very attractive and fit for the most part. They are a diverse group of individuals and have at least four or five different ethnicities that they hang out with, they are mixed gender, sexual preference, and there is even one pregnant girl. They are far more diverse than you would expect the average teen in America to be. They are students for the most part that like to sing and do some dancing. They are also cheerleaders. Some are teachers, husband, and wives or girlfriends. For the most part they now like to hang out with each other, or a select few within their group. I the beginning of the show they didn’t like to hang out with each other due to the different “social status” each had. They live with their parents or in their own homes (teachers that is). The state they live in is Ohio and to be honest, I don’t even recall the name of the town they live in. The show takes place in the high school they attend.
The good things this would tell someone who has no other experience with is that we are diverse, talented, can be kind, and we are very attractive. The bad things this show would tell someone is that we are shallow, vain, materialistic, and that we can be mean. This show lives so out there on the edge of our reality that I would fear any impression it would give off of us as a people in general. One thing else it would show them, is that we have a good sense of humor and we really like to smile. The show I watched is “Glee”.
The good things this would tell someone who has no other experience with is that we are diverse, talented, can be kind, and we are very attractive. The bad things this show would tell someone is that we are shallow, vain, materialistic, and that we can be mean. This show lives so out there on the edge of our reality that I would fear any impression it would give off of us as a people in general. One thing else it would show them, is that we have a good sense of humor and we really like to smile. The show I watched is “Glee”.
Transitions
I have been working sense I left home to go into the military and only recently, within the last 6 months, was laid off for the very first time – I have never been without a job before. There were several transitions that occurred when this one event took place. One, I had to transition from breadwinner to dependent basically, a situation I have not been in since high school. The second transition was from making very good money, to making none. These two transitions sound the same, but actually the feelings, thought processes, and affects were different. The third transition that occurred is that I went from working to going to school full time. I have never been a full time college student. I have always worked full time and then would go to school part time, which is how I received an Information Systems Management degree (A.S). So, now I am in school full time with a lot of other students who are very much my junior. One event, three transitions, but I feel I am dealing with them as well as can be expected.
Change is going to happen and although I was a bit despondent initially after I was notified I would be laid off, I did the only thing I could think of to squelch my disappointment; I came up with a plan and executed it. I was enrolled in UWRF for the spring before my last day (December) had even hit – I was enrolled by the end of the summer. For me, dealing with these transitions meant taking action. After the tail-spin they threw me for, I needed to feel I was in control of my future and that this company had not taken that from me.
Change is going to happen and although I was a bit despondent initially after I was notified I would be laid off, I did the only thing I could think of to squelch my disappointment; I came up with a plan and executed it. I was enrolled in UWRF for the spring before my last day (December) had even hit – I was enrolled by the end of the summer. For me, dealing with these transitions meant taking action. After the tail-spin they threw me for, I needed to feel I was in control of my future and that this company had not taken that from me.
Activity 7 - Test test test
I was talking to Chasity. In the first test, we were talking about just some random subjects. She was sitting to the side of me and I was sitting straight up and turning my body so I was looking directly at her. Periodically she would glance around the room or look down. Whenever she did this I made a point to get into her line of vision. At first she just looked at me weird, a bit like I was crazy. Then she started to wonder what she was doing that would cause me to act weird, like was there something on her face, etc. Then finally she just asked me what was wrong with me. I told her nothing and then we just kept talking. Then I did it again, and she again asked me what was wrong with me and even wondered if I was doing a psychological test on her. I honestly told her I was NOT doing a psych test. Ha!
The second test, not making eye contact, was easier. She actually didn’t notice anything outside of the normal and never said a word to me.
On the third test as I moved towards her, she actually held out her hand and pushed me gently away. I guess that was her way of letting me know I had just violated her personal space. When I came close to her again, she held out her hands and asked what I was doing. I said, “Nothing, I’m just trying to talk to you.” I don’t know that she bought it though, because by that point she had had enough of my weirdness. After I told her I wasn’t doing anything, she actually let me get close to her the next time I did it. She is like eight inches taller than me, so she just looked down at me. I thought she was just trying to intimidate me because I was threatening her personal space.
After a while I couldn’t help myself and I started laughing. I then told her what I was doing. I asked her what she noticed, and as I already indicated, she noticed the first and last test, but had no clue I was avoiding making eye contact on the second test. She actually said that conversation was comfortable for her because she is one of those people who don’t like a lot of direct eye contact. The moral of this test: Not everyone will take these violations of rules of communication the way we think because it really depends on how they view these slights of proper conversation. How many people do you encounter that do not feel comfortable making direct eye contact as a practice?
The second test, not making eye contact, was easier. She actually didn’t notice anything outside of the normal and never said a word to me.
On the third test as I moved towards her, she actually held out her hand and pushed me gently away. I guess that was her way of letting me know I had just violated her personal space. When I came close to her again, she held out her hands and asked what I was doing. I said, “Nothing, I’m just trying to talk to you.” I don’t know that she bought it though, because by that point she had had enough of my weirdness. After I told her I wasn’t doing anything, she actually let me get close to her the next time I did it. She is like eight inches taller than me, so she just looked down at me. I thought she was just trying to intimidate me because I was threatening her personal space.
After a while I couldn’t help myself and I started laughing. I then told her what I was doing. I asked her what she noticed, and as I already indicated, she noticed the first and last test, but had no clue I was avoiding making eye contact on the second test. She actually said that conversation was comfortable for her because she is one of those people who don’t like a lot of direct eye contact. The moral of this test: Not everyone will take these violations of rules of communication the way we think because it really depends on how they view these slights of proper conversation. How many people do you encounter that do not feel comfortable making direct eye contact as a practice?
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